What If You’ve Been Creating Life Backwards All Along?
Most people move through life believing that if they just do enough, eventually they will have what they want, and then they’ll finally get to be relaxed, confident, joyful, or free.
Do. Have. Be.
It sounds logical, sensible, and responsible. It’s also the expectation that quietly trains us to push, strive, and force our way through life. When this is the model we’re using, doing becomes exhausting. We try harder, add more to our plates, and feel frustrated when the results don’t match the effort we’re putting in.
Here’s the shift that changed everything for me.
Creation works the other way around.
Be. Do. Have.
When you embody the energy first, the action that follows is inspired rather than forced. And when action comes from alignment, what you want tends to meet you with far more ease and joy and fun!
The Part Most People Miss
The thing we think we want is never really the thing.
We don’t want the job, the money, the relationship, or the freedom because of the thing itself. We want the way we believe it will make us feel. Calm. Safe. Expanded. Free. To feel like ourselves, who we really are. Like life is finally flowing instead of pushing back.
That feeling is the be.
And the truth is that you don’t have to wait for circumstances to give it to you. You can choose it first. It may not be easy to start with but even the smallest change in this direction can have big rewards.
This is how I live my days...at least most of them! Before I look at my to-do list, I decide how I want the day to feel and who I am choosing to be within it. Calm and focused. Playful and creative. Open and trusting. From there, I let the tasks and actions arise naturally. I do then look at my to-do list and see what fits happily in my day...and of course, if anything is really important.
Most days, everything I want to do gets done easily. Not because I’m working harder, but because I’m not fighting myself or the energy of the day. I am choosing the energy of the day!
Even When Things Get Messy
And no, this doesn’t mean life suddenly becomes perfectly organised or glitch-free.
Today was a great example. I was recording videos and my computer decided to add its own dramatic whirring soundtrack. I forgot what I was saying halfway through because I was so excited about what wanted to come through. I made the videos, remade them, laughed, and made them again.
It all worked out.
Later, I even found myself enjoying thirty minutes of ironing. Not because I’ve suddenly fallen in love with ironing, but because I was cold and the steam warmed my hands and it felt oddly satisfying. Same tasks. Completely different experience.
That’s what happens when you start with being.
What “Being First” Feels Like
Putting the energy of being first isn’t about sitting back and doing nothing, and it isn’t about pretending everything is perfect.
It feels like being yourself.
There’s a grounded sense of knowing that you are actively creating your life, even when you don’t yet see how everything will unfold. There’s trust that things will work out, and confidence that whatever shows up, you’ll meet it with clarity, flexibility, and a bit of humour.
From this place, action stops feeling heavy. You still do the things, often many things, but you’re no longer dragging yourself through them hoping to feel better at the end of the day.
You feel better as you go.
Tools That Help You Live This Way
If you’ve spent years believing you have to earn rest, joy, or ease, this way of living can feel unfamiliar at first. That’s why I work with energetic tools that support the being rather than adding more to the doing.
Light Language works directly with your energy field, helping you embody who you truly are beyond effort and overthinking. It’s not something you analyse. You feel it, and your system responds.
The Awaken program gives you a simple, daily way to anchor into this state of being so alignment becomes normal rather than something you visit occasionally.
And Soul Realignment is a deeper reset, clearing old energetic patterns and reconnecting you with your true essence so being yourself feels natural again instead of something you have to work at.
These tools aren’t about fixing you. They’re about supporting you to start where creation actually begins.
Try This Tomorrow Morning 🌟
Tomorrow, before you launch into doing, pause for a moment.
Look at your day with love and curiosity. Ask yourself what energy you want to embody and who you are choosing to be as you move through it. Let your actions flow from there instead of forcing them into place. Live with a pull from the outcome rather than a push from the doing!
You may find that more gets done than usual. And that it feels lighter while it’s happening.
A question to sit with
If you didn’t need to earn the feeling you want, who would you choose to be today?
